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Embrace Kindness


What are your hopes and dreams for 2017? What do you want to accomplish this year? Are you prepared for what needs to be done in order to see those goals realized?

On New Year’s Eve my daughter and I set fire to the things we didn’t want to carry into the coming year. Emotional burdens and hurdles like anger, negativity and past hurts. Some things did seem to evaporate in the smoke from that little garbage pail fire on the back porch, while others are going to take a bit more work – but still – the thought is the same. We no longer need to carry the things from the past that hold us back. We need to shed those things in order to see a brighter future.

At the same time, we wrote down the things we wanted to do more of in the coming year. Some may call them resolutions, I just like to think of them as the things that will help me to become the person I really want to be. My daughter had several wishes for herself in the coming year, but to me, one of the most powerful was the little statement she wrote above.

Embrace people’s kindness.

It sounds simple, doesn’t it? How hard can that be? Truth be told, how many of us are free to embrace the kindness of others in our daily lives? I’ll bet it isn’t as often as you think.

Too many times we refuse the kindness someone tries to show by the gift of their help. We tell them, “Oh, you can’t do that, it’s too much!” Or we see simpler things as something we should be able to do for ourselves. “Oh, no, I can do it, but thanks for asking!”

Sound familiar? It’s hard to accept help, isn’t it? But by offering help, those people are extending kindness.

My daughter knows she has a difficult time accepting acts of kindness. She doesn’t like to be complimented, she doesn’t like to accept help, she doesn’t like for anyone to do anything for her because she then sees herself as a burden.

Accepting kindness is a way to be vulnerable and open yourself up to others. This can be terrifying. Vulnerability is scary. I know. But as humans, without that vulnerability, without opening ourselves up to others, we lose the very connection that makes us human. I’m not so sure I’m ready to give up on that. Are you?

I believe that this very simple thing has the power to transform lives. It can be easy to show kindness to others, but accepting it in return is the the difficult part. Choose to allow kindness in, and I imagine you will start to see the world, and yourself, differently.


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A Year of Blessings

Happy New Year to everyone! I wish you all a year filled with joy, peace, and love.

I like the idea of new starts. Each day is a blank page, but there is just something about the turning over of another calendar year that feels fresh. January 1 you just feel like anything is possible. The sins of the year before are all gone and you have a new beginning. It’s kind of nice. (okay, EVERYTHING can’t be erased, but you get the idea)

I like to begin a new year with the #100daysofhappy challenge. I think it’s a great way to get started in the right frame of mind – to be mindful and grateful of the good that can be found in every day. I started today, using Twitter as my platform for sharing my happiness photos. You can join me in the challenge if you’d like, and find me on Twitter @KristiLazzari

I decided to try something else this year, to get my daughter involved in things as well. I am trying to teach her that joy is within ourselves, and happiness is a choice. I put out a blessing jar today. Once a week (minimum) we must write down one good thing that happened to us over the week and put it in the jar. Next New Year’s Eve we will take out all the little slips of paper and read them, remembering the good that was to be found in 2016. I’m looking forward to seeing all the great things that will take place this year!

I don’t do resolutions as I think they are a way to set myself up for failure. I only want to look at success. I only want to think of improving myself and making goals that help me become the person I want to be.

I do have a few goals this year. I plan on publishing my first book of short stories, as well as my second novel. I also plan to have the first draft done of a new novel. The book of short stories has been started, I have the first draft of the novel complete and am ready to begin the re-writes, and I have a solid idea for the other novel. I may be biting off an awful lot with the hopes of writing a new first draft while re-writing the current WIP, but when I make the time to write every day instead of in sporadic bursts, I can get quite a lot accomplished! We will see. If I manage to finish the book of short stories and the re-writes of the current novel, I will be happy.

My biggest goal (and this one sounds a lot like a resolution) is to take better care of myself. I’m not going to put unrealistic goals on myself however. I am aiming for a certain lifestyle, a life in which I care for myself both physically and mentally, and that is not unreasonable. The older I get, the more I feel like life is whizzing past in a blur. I miss too much, procrastinate too much, and all too often don’t live in the moment. There are too many things I want to do to jeopardize my health, and it’s time to recapture the wonder and excitement that life has to offer. No more running on auto-pilot. No more not taking care of myself today because there is always tomorrow. Tomorrow is not guaranteed – and I don’t intend to hasten the inevitable by not caring for myself!

I wish healing for the world. I wish understanding, respect and compassion for our fellow man. I wish an end to persecution, hatred, bigotry, and prejudice. I am a dreamer. I am a romantic. I know this. I also know that change begins with each and every one of us. Change begins within. I want my life to reflect what I would like to see in the world.

Here’s to an amazing 2016. It’s within our grasp.